accused of sexual and aggravated harassment

I was working at a bar. A coworker I'd known for two years cancled our plans to attend a Knicks game because (during a bad hangover) I told her I had suicidal thoughts. Realizing my drinking problem had upset the woman I cared about (and was making me depressed) I found the strength to quit drinking. I asked her out to the game a second time...but she said no. Frusturated, I told another coworker how much I cared about her and how sorry I was to upset her...but I thought she was being a bitch. The person I spoke with told her everything I said. That night she called me and repeatedly told me I was a "loser" a "motherfucker" and told me if I spoke to her again she'd file a sexual harassment claim against me. I cried my eyes out and went home. Eight miserable and sober days later the police show up to my apartment and arrest me for aggravated harassment. (Even though I left her alone...she still went to the police!) Six weeks later I find my criminal paperwork was lost...and the charges dropped. Now I lost my apartment (because I lived with her co-workers), I lost my job, my reputation is tarnished and I have an arrest on my record. I never asked her for sex, a relationship, or even laid a hand on her! I just wanted to go to a lousy Knicks basketball game!! I believe she screamed sexual harassment just to hurt me and make me disappear...and that is defimation of character and slander. I don't want to press charges against her...but what choice to I have? My name is important to me and she has labled me a "sexual harasser." Any ideas?

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:   I was working at a bar.   A coworker I'd known for two years cancled our plans to attend a Knicks game because (during a bad hangover) I told her I had suicidal thoughts.   Realizing my drinking problem had upset the woman I cared about (and was making me depressed) I found the strength to quit drinking.   I asked her out to the game a second time...but she said no.  Frusturated, I told another coworker how much I cared about her and how sorry I was to upset her...but I thought she was being a bitch.   The person I spoke with told her everything I said.   That night she called me and repeatedly told me I was a "loser" a "motherfucker" and told me if I spoke to her again she'd file a sexual harassment claim against me.   I cried my eyes out and went home.  Eight miserable and sober days later the police show up to my apartment and arrest me for aggravated harassment.   (Even though I left her alone...she still went to the police!)   Six weeks later I find my criminal paperwork was lost...and the charges dropped.   Now I lost my apartment (because I lived with her co-workers),  I lost my job,  my reputation is tarnished and I have an arrest on my record.   I never asked her for sex, a relationship, or even laid a hand on her!    I just wanted to go to a lousy Knicks basketball game!!   I believe she screamed sexual harassment just to hurt me and make me disappear...and that is defimation of character and slander.  I don't want to press charges against her...but what choice to I have?  My name is important to me and she has labled me a "sexual harasser."  Any ideas?